Truth-Centered Life: Stephen R. Covey 2-in-1 eBook Bundle
They aren't up for discussion. They apply equally to everyone, male or female, rich or poor, famous or obscure. They can't be bought or sold. If you live by them, you will excel. If you break them, you will fail hey, that sorta' rhymes. It's that simple. Here are a few examples: Honesty is a principle. Service is a principle. Love is a principle. Hard work is a principle. Respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty, and responsibility are principles.
There are dozens and dozens more. They are not hard to identify. Just as a compass always points to true north, your heart will recognize true principles.
For example, think about the principle of hard work. You may be able to scrape by using shortcuts and faking it for a while, but eventually it'll catch up to you.
I remember one time being invited to play in a golf tournament with my college football coach. He was a great golfer. Everyone, including my coach, expected that I'd be a fine golfer as well. After all, I was a college athlete and all college athletes should be great golfers. You see, I stunk at golf. I'd only played a few times in my life, and I didn't even know how to hold a club properly. I was nervous about everyone finding out how bad I was at golf. Especially my coach. So I was hoping that I could fool him and everyone else into thinking I was good.
On the very first hole there was a small crowd gathered around. I was first up to tee off. Why me? As I stepped up to hit the ball, I prayed for a miracle. It worked! A miracle! I couldn't believe it! I had hit a long shot, straight down the middle of the fairway. I turned around and smiled to the crowd and acted as if I always hit like that. Thank you very much.
In fact, it took only about five more shots for everyone around me, including my coach, to realize that I was a complete golf sham. It wasn't long until the coach was trying to show me how to swing the club. I'd been exposed. You can't fake playing golf, tuning a guitar, or speaking Arabic if you haven't paid the price to get good.
There's no way around it. What you don't see, however, is that breaking principles always catches up to them in the end. Take the principle of honesty. If you're a big liar, you may be able to get by for a while, even for a few years. But you'd be hard-pressed to find a liar who achieved success over the long haul. As Cecil B. DeMille observed about his classic movie The Ten Commandments, "It is impossible for us to break the law.
We can only break ourselves against the law. They'll never gossip behind your back. They don't move away. They don't suffer career-ending injuries. They don't play favorites based on skin color, gender, wealth, or appearance. A principle- centered life is simply the most stable, immovable, unshakable foundation you can build upon, and we all need one of those. To grasp why principles always work, just imagine living a life based on their opposites — a life of dishonesty, laziness, indulgence, ingratitude, selfishness, and hate. I can't imagine any good things coming out of that.
Can you? Ironically, living a principle-centered life is the key to excelling in all the other centers. If you live the principles of service, respect, and love, for instance, you're likely to pick up more friends and be a more stable boyfriend or girlfriend. Putting principles first is also the key to becoming a person of character. It is impossible for us to break the law. In whatever situation you find yourself, ask, "What's the principle in play here? If you're feeling worn out and beaten up by life, perhaps you should try the principle of balance.
If you find no one trusts you, the principle of honesty might just be the cure you need. In the story Loyalty to a Brother by Walter MacPeek, loyalty was the principle in play: One of two brothers fighting in the same company in France fell by a German bullet. The one who escaped asked permission of his officer to go and bring his brother in. Just as the soldier reached the lines with his brother on his shoulders, the wounded man died. And that's where they get their power from. The long and short of it is principles rule.
So carry on! It is the story of a dysfunctional, phobia-laden, immature, pea-brained leech named Bob who never, ever goes away. He attaches himself to Dr. Marvin, a renowned psychiatrist, who wants nothing more than to get rid of Bob and finally gives him a book he wrote called Baby Steps. He tells Bob that the best way to solve his problems is not to bite off too much at once but to just take "baby steps" to reach his goals. Bob is delighted! He no longer has to worry about how to get all the way home from Dr.
Marvin's office, a big task for Bob. Instead, Bob only has to baby step his way out of the office, and then baby step his way onto the elevator, and so on. So I'll give you some baby steps at the end of each chapter, starting with this one — small, easy steps that you can do immediately to help you apply what you just read. Though small, these steps can become powerful tools in helping you achieve your larger goals. So, come along with Bob he really becomes very likable after you accept the fact that you can't shake him and take some baby steps.
Show appreciation for someone's point of view today. Say something like "Hey, that's a cool idea. Think of a loved one or close friend who has been acting out of character lately. Consider what might be causing them to act that way. When you have nothing to do, what is it that occupies your thoughts? Remember, whatever is most important to you will become your paradigm or life-center. What occupies my time and energy? Begin today to treat others as you would want them to treat you.
Don't be impatient, complain about what's for dinner, or bad-mouth someone, unless you want the same treatment. Sometime soon, find a quiet place where you can be alone. Think about what matters most to you. Consider if they are in harmony with the principles you believe in. When you do your chores at home or work tonight, try out the principle of hard work.
Go the extra mile and do more than is expected. The next time you're in a tough situation and don't know what to do, ask yourself, "What principle should I apply i. All change begins with you. I'm starting with the man in the mirror I'm asking him to change his ways And no message could have been any clearer If you wanna make the world a better place Take a look at yourself, and then make a change. You're disappointing me.
Where's the Sean I once knew in high school? You're just going through the motions and your heart's not in it. You better get your act together or the younger quarterbacks will pass you up and you'll be a benchwarmer. Several colleges recruited me straight out of high school, but I chose BYU because they had a tradition of producing all-American quarterbacks like Jim McMahon and Steve Young, both of whom went on to the pros and led their teams to Super Bowl victories.
Although I was the third-string quarterback at the time, I planned on being the next all-American! When Coach told me that I was "stinkin' up the field," it came as a cold, hard slap in the face. The thing that really bugged me, though, was that he was right. Even though I was spending long hours practicing, I wasn't truly committed. I was holding back, and I knew it. I had a hard decision to make — I had to either quit football or triple my commitment. Over the next several weeks, I waged a war inside my head and came face-to-face with many fears and self-doubts.
Did I have what it took to be the starting quarterback? Could I handle the pressure? Was I big enough? It soon became clear to me that I was scared, scared of competing, scared of being in the limelight, scared of trying and perhaps failing. And all these fears were holding me back from giving it my all.
There's a great quote by Arnold Bennett that describes what I finally decided to do about my dilemma. He wrote, "The real tragedy is the tragedy of the man who never in his life braces himself for his one supreme effort — he never stretches to his full capacity, never stands up to his full stature. So I committed to give it my all. I decided to stop holding back and to start laying it all on the line. I didn't know if I would ever get a chance to be first string, but if I didn't, at least I was going to strike out swinging.
It was simply a private battle that I fought and won inside my own mind over a period of several weeks. Once I committed myself, everything changed. I began taking chances and making big improvements on the field. My heart was in it now. I knew it, and the coaches saw that. As the season began and the games rolled by one by one, I sat on the bench. Although frustrated, I kept working hard and kept improving.
Midseason featured the big game of the year. A week before the game. Coach called me into his office and told me that I would be the starting quarterback. Needless to say, that was the longest week of my life. Game day finally arrived. At kickoff my mouth was so dry I could barely talk. But after a few minutes I settled down and led our team to victory. Afterward, lots of people congratulated me on the victory and my performance.
That felt good. But they didn't really understand. They didn't know the full story. They thought that victory had taken place on the field that day in the public eye. I knew it happened months before in the privacy of my own head, when I decided to face my fears, to stop holding back, and to brace myself for one supreme effort. Beating Air Force was a much easier challenge than overcoming myself.
Private victories always come before public victories. As the saying goes, "We have met the enemy and he is us. We learn addition before algebra. We must fix ourselves before we can fix others. If you want to make a change in your life, the place to begin is with yourself, not with your parents, your teacher, or your girlfriend or boyfriend.
All change begins with Y-O-U. It's inside out. Not outside in.
I am reminded of the writings of an Anglican bishop: When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits , I dreamed of changing the world; As I grew older and wiser I realized the world would not change. And I decided to shorten my sights somewhat and change only my country. But it too seemed immovable. As I entered my twilight years , in one last desperate attempt , I sought to change only my family, those closest to me, but alas they would have none of it.
And now here I lie on my death bed and realize perhaps for the first time that if only I'd changed myself first, then by example I may have influenced my family and with their encouragement and support I may have bettered my country, and who knows I may have changed the world. This is what this book is all about. Changing from the inside out, starting with the man or woman in the mirror. This chapter "The Personal Bank Account" and the ones that follow on Habits 1, 2, and 3 deal with you and your character, or the private victory.
The next four chapters, "The Relationship Bank Account," and Habits 4, 5, and 6, deal with relationships, or the public victory. Before diving into Habit 1, let's take a look at how you can immediately begin to build your self-confidence and achieve a private victory. Let's call it your personal bank account PBA. Just like a checking or savings account at a bank, you can make deposits into and take withdrawals from your PBA by the things you think, say, and do.
For example, when I stick to a commitment I've made to myself, I feel in control. It's a deposit. On the other hand, when I break a promise to myself, I feel disappointed and make a withdrawal. So let me ask you. How is your PBA? How much trust and confidence do you have in yourself? Are you loaded or bankrupt? The symptoms listed below might help you evaluate where you stand. If your personal bank account is low, don't get discouraged. It doesn't have to be permanent. You'll feel your confidence growing. Small deposits over a long period of time is the way to a healthy and rich PBA.
With the help of various teen groups. I've compiled a list of six key deposits that can help you build your PBA. And, just like Newton's Law of Motion, with every deposit, there is an equal and opposite withdrawal. They say they'll text you back and they don't. They promise to hang out on the weekend and they forget. After a while, you stop trusting them. Their commitments mean nothing. The same thing happens when you continually make and break self-promises, such as "I'm going to study right when I get home," when next thing you know you're Facebook chatting with friends.
After a while of flaking out on yourself, you don't trust yourself, either. We should treat the commitments we make to ourselves as seriously as those we make to the most important people in our lives. If you're feeling out of control in life, focus on the single thing you can control — you. Make a promise to yourself and keep it. Because it gets you focused outward, not inward. It's hard to be depressed while helping someone else. Ironically, a by- product of serving others is feeling wonderful yourself. I remember sitting in an airport one day, waiting for my flight. I was excited because I'd been upgraded to first-class.
And in first class the flight attendants are nicer, the food is edible, and there's room to stretch your legs so they're not curled up like a pretzel. In fact, I had the best seat on the entire plane. Seat 1A. Before boarding, I noticed a young lady who had several carry-on bags and was holding a crying baby. Having just finished reading a book on doing random acts of kindness, I heard my conscience speak to me, "You scumbag. Let her have your ticket. I know how hard it can be flying with kids. Why don't you let me trade you tickets? I really don't mind. I'm just going to be working the whole time, anyway.
That's very kind of you," she said, as we swapped tickets. As we boarded the plane, I was surprised at how good it made me feel to watch her sit down in seat 1A. In fact, under the circumstances, sitting way back near the bathrooms didn't seem that bad at all. At one point during the flight I was so curious to see how she was doing that I got up out of my seat, walked to the first-class section, and peeked in through the curtain that separates first class from coach.
There she was with her baby, both asleep in big and comfortable seat 1 A. And I felt like a million bucks. I've got to keep doing this kind of thing, This sweet story shared by a teen named Tawni is another example of the joy of service: There is a girl in our neighborhood who lives in a duplex with her parents, and they don't have a lot of money. For the past three years, when I grew out of my clothes, me and my mom took them over to her.
I'd say something like "I thought you might like these, " or "I'd like to see you wearing this. I'd think it was really cool. She would say, "Thank you so much for the new shirt. It makes me feel good, knowing that I'm helping her have a better life. Go out of your way to invite the kid who sits alone in class out with you and your friends.
Write an email or thank-you note to someone who has made a difference in your life, like a friend, a teacher, or a coach. The next time you're at a tollbooth, pay for the car behind you. Giving gives life not only to others but also to yourself. One is fresh, and fish are in it.
Splashes of green adorn its banks. Trees spread their branches over it and stretch out their thirsty roots to sip of its healing waters. The River Jordan makes this sea with sparkling water from the hills. So it laughs in the sunshine. And men build their houses near to it, and birds their nests; and every kind of life is happier because it is there. The River Jordan flows on south into another sea. Here is no splash of fish, no fluttering leaf, no song of birds, no children's laughter.
Travelers choose another route, unless on urgent business. The air hangs heavy above its water, and neither man nor beast nor fowl will drink. What makes this mighty difference in these neighbor seas? Not the River Jordan. It empties the same good water into both. Not the soil in which they lie; not in the country round about. This is the difference. The Sea of Galilee receives but does not keep the Jordan. For every drop that flows into it another drop flows out. The giving and receiving go on in equal measure.
The other sea is shrewder, hoarding its income jealously. It will not be tempted into any generous impulse. Every drop it gets, it keeps. The Sea of Galilee gives and lives. This other sea gives nothing. It is named the Dead. There are two kinds of people in this world. There are two seas in Palestine. It means not expecting yourself to be perfect by tomorrow morning. If you're a late bloomer, as many of us are, be patient and allow yourself enough time to grow.
It means learning to laugh at the stupid things you do. I have a friend Chuck who's extraordinary when it comes to laughing at himself and never taking life too seriously. I've always been amazed at how his upbeat attitude attracts people to him, almost magnetically. Being gentle also means forgiving yourself when you mess up. And who hasn't done that? We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat ourselves up over them. The past is just that, past. Consider what went wrong and why. Learn, and make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on. Throw that voodoo doll out with the trash.
The easiest way to get rid of them is for the ship to harbor in a freshwater port, free of salt water. Here, the barnacles loosen on their own and fall off. The ship is then able to return to sea, relieved of its burden. Are you carrying around barnacles in the form of mistakes, regrets, and pain from the past? Perhaps you need to allow yourself to soak in fresh water for a while. Hit the refresh button. Letting go of a burden and giving yourself a second chance may just be the deposit you need right now.
Only have one life to live, so you better make the best of it. Not a bad set of words to be associated with, don't you think? Honesty comes in many forms. First there's self-honesty. When people look at you, do they see the genuine article or do you appear through smoke and mirrors? I love how singer Judy Garland put it, "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
If you've been dishonest in the past, and I think we all have, try being honest, and notice how whole it makes you feel. It's a relief not to hide who you are, or to have to cover up your actions. This goes for your Internet persona, too. Just because people can't see you directly doesn't mean you can lie — after all, you'll know you're not telling the truth. Remember, you can't do wrong and feel right.
This story by Jeff is a good example of that: In my sophomore year, there were three kids in my geometry class who didn't do well in math. I was really good at it. I'd charge them three dollars for each test that I helped them pass. The tests were multiple-choice, so I'd write on a little tiny piece of paper all the right answers, and hand them off. At first I felt like I was making money, kind of a nice job. I wasn't thinking about how it could hurt all of us. After a while I realized I shouldn't do that anymore, because they weren't learning anything, and it would only get harder down the road.
Cheating certainly wasn't helping me. It takes courage to be honest when people all around you seem to be getting away with cheating on tests, lying to their parents, and stealing from work. But, remember, every act of honesty is a deposit into your PBA and will build strength. As the saying goes, "My strength is as the strength of ten because my heart is pure. If you don't you'll get burned-out and lose your zest for life. It seems like half the planet has seen the movie Avatar, the highest grossing film of all time.
Why was it so successful? Besides groundbreaking special effects and great filmmaking, I believe the story hits home because we all need to practice what it's preaching. The story takes place in the year on Pandora, a forested moon in the Alpha Centauri star system, and revolves around the character of Jake Sully, a former Marine, now paralyzed, confined to a wheelchair, trapped and unfulfilled.
Being able to mentally live through his "avatar" — a foot tall replica of the planet's blue natives, he at first feels alive because he can run and enjoy a working body, even if only in his mind. But it quickly becomes much more than that. Meeting the natives, Jake falls in love with Neytiri, a female Na'vi native. The more time he spends with Neytiri and her people, the more he comes to see the beauty and peace and power of their world — a world Jake's loud, natural-resource- thirsty humans have come to pillage and plunder. The message for us here is about rejuvenation, about unplugging, about taking time to listen to the natural world around us.
It's about putting yourself in a self-imposed time-out once in a while. Now you don't have to become a foot-tall semi-human blue dude in order to find peace, but like Jake Sully, finding your own place to escape to, your own sanctuary of some kind, is essential.
Go sit somewhere and ponder the clouds. Find a tree stump and listen to the wind or birds or maybe even the beating of your own heart. If you don't have access to a big cool glowing Tree of Souls like Jake, maybe you can find a rooftop, a park bench, some piece of grass somewhere, just a place to be alone. Now all this might sound a bit hokey, but trust me, humans today live in a constant storm of stuff and we all need to take a deep breath and unplug occasionally, just to renew our spirits.
Theodore, from Canada, had his hideout: Whenever I'd get too stressed out, or when I wasn't getting along with my parents, I'd just go into the basement. There I had a hockey stick, a ball, and a bare concrete wall on which I could take out my frustrations. I'd just shoot the ball for half an hour and go back upstairs refreshed.
It did wonders for my hockey game, but it was even better for my family relationships. Arian told me about his refuge. Whenever he got too stressed out, he would slip into his high school's large auditorium through a back door. All alone in the quiet, dark, and spacious auditorium, he could get away from all the hustle and bustle, have a good cry, or just relax. Allison found a garden all her own: My dad died in an industrial accident at work when I was little.
I really don't know the details because I've always been afraid to ask my mother very many questions about it. Maybe it's because I've created this perfect picture of him in my mind that I don't want to change. To me he's this perfect human being who would protect me if he were here. He's with me all the time in my thoughts, and I imagine how he would act and help me if he was here. When I really need him I go to the top of the slide at the local grade school playground.
I have this silly feeling that if I can go to the highest place I will be able to feel him. So I climb up to the top of the slide and just lie there. I talk to him in my thoughts and I can feel him talking to my mind. I want him to touch me, but of course know that he cannot. I go there every time something really is bothering me and I just share my burdens with him. Besides finding a place of refuge, there are so many other ways to renew yourself and build your PBA. Exercise can do it, like going for a walk, running, dancing, or kickboxing.
Some teens have suggested watching old movies, talking to friends who crack you up, or recording music and making videos on your computer. Others have found that writing in their journals helps them cope. Habit 7, Sharpen the Saw, is all about taking time to renew your body, heart, mind, and soul. We'll talk more about it when we get there. So hold your horses.
Why is it that when we think of talents we think in terms of the "traditional" high-profile talents, such as the athlete, dancer, or award-winning scholar? The truth is, talents come in a variety of packages. Don't think small. You may have a knack for reading, writing, or speaking. You may have a gift for rhythm, being hilarious, remembering details, or being accepting of others. You may have organizational, musical, or leadership skills.
It doesn't matter where your talent may lie, whether it's chess, drama, or skateboarding, when you do something you like doing and have a talent for — it's exhilarating. It's a form of self- expression. And as this girl attests, it builds esteem. You might die laughing when I tell you that I have a real talent and love for weeds.
- PK Stephen R Covey The 7Habits of Highly Effective People - The Best You.
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View all 4 comments. Jul 02, Greg rated it it was amazing Shelves: professional-development , lifetime-keepers , personal-development. Inspirational, developmental, and practical -- what a combination! The principles of behavior covered in this groundbreaking and long-respected book are of great worth to anyone seeking success in career, family, or any other aspect of their life.
Covey discusses first the actions we must take or habits we must develop internally first - getting our heads and hearts right first. These include being proactive, beginning with the end in mind, and putting first things first. These constitute the Inspirational, developmental, and practical -- what a combination! These constitute the "private victory. Finally, he addresses the truth that we won't always be energetic and at our best in his discussion of personal renewal. Key to that is the idea of sharpening the saw Any serious athlete understands that principle.
Outstanding book, especially when linked with his expanded discussion of Habit 3, putting first things first, in the book by the same title. Another excellent complement to this book is "Crucial Conversations. Jul 03, Ann rated it did not like it. This is my husband's favorite book. Obviously he is more effective than I am. Dividing my life into squares, writing in those squares the things I have to do, then doing the "most important" may make me effective, but is that my best life? Choosing to do the things that I want to do rather than the things I need to do, adds interest to my existence.
If I take the scenic route, and run out of gas doing it, I find adventure, and often meet AAA wrecker drivers who could write books on their experie This is my husband's favorite book. If I take the scenic route, and run out of gas doing it, I find adventure, and often meet AAA wrecker drivers who could write books on their experiences. By forgetting birthdays and anniversaries, I find out who really loves me for myself. By forgetting about the time and shimming the door knob that has been bothering me for weeks, and then remembering that it is time to pick up my child from school, he learns independence and I can cross the darn rattling doorknob off my to do list.
It's been driving me nuts. I am tempted to write the 7 habits of highly haphazard people. Be creative with your to-do list. Add color and doodles. If you can read it, you are not trying hard enough. Lose it. Buy something you will never use, but if you can use it in a unique way for which it was not intended do that. Colanders make great Halloween alien helmets. Add pipe cleaners for antennae. Set some clocks in your home ahead by a few minutes and some behind for a few minutes.
You will learn a great deal about yourself and others. Get a cat. Dogs make you feel important. Cats teach you humility. Relish the wonder of soap bubbles blown in the sun. Take the road that you've always been curious about. See where it goes. Learn how to turn around quickly in tight places. Really listen to a small child as often as possible. I am enjoying writing this, especially since I have company coming in a few moments and scads of things to do before they get here. View all 5 comments. Jan 15, Emma Sea rated it it was ok Shelves: i-used-to-own-it , released-into-the-wild.
I'm not able to rate this fairly as a reader coming to it in This was one of the first "personal development" books, and the other 4 thousand books I've read on the topic all borrow from it heavily. The thing is, they borrow from it, and then make it better in every way: more interesting, more relevant, better writing, more concise writing, better anecdotes and examples. This is a classic, but I don't recommend reading it. Apr 09, Amit Mishra rated it it was amazing.
An outstanding book that leads you to the different dimensions of positivity. The author has suggested some fundamental psychological facts about our life. All seven habits suggest in the book is really awesome. If you will follow all these minutely then surely you will end up your life with a big name and fame.
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Aug 21, Corinne rated it really liked it Shelves: contemporary , constructive , positive , to-go-forward. I had to read this book for a professional development seminar. Then, I re-read it again, for personal reasons. When I rose above myself and did this, all of a sudden I was not the same person. The book is worth just for this. I love his notion of synergy in creating values, but this is also the notion that pains me the most, because this is the least I see around me. His chapter on renewal convinced me to have a role and goal.
It gave me a meaning to my life, for the first time. Nov 25, Rowena rated it liked it Shelves: non-fiction. This book was just alright. I was slightly disappointed as I have had this book recommended to me by countless people so I did expect better. I felt it could have been condensed to a quarter of its size easily. The book was also written in the 80s and I could easily tell personally, I feel it's in need of a 21st Century update. I did give it 3-stars though because there were parts I found useful and interesting, especially the section about writing a mission statement for oneself.
I guess this This book was just alright. I guess this book may be more suited to people in the business world. Feb 29, Joe rated it it was amazing. Years later, when my life dipped to a low ebb of meaning and motivation, I picked it off the shelf in hopes of finding a spark. Inside I found wisdom, compassion, a direct approach and a love of humanity. The result wasn't immediately transformative. The methods and techniques Covey espouses didn't fall into place and turn me into a whirlwind of positive productivity.
Reading The Seven Habits was just one of many moderate steps on a journey that, years on, still stretches endlessly into the horizon. But the part that had the greatest effect on me, looking back, is the notion of the Personal Mission Statement; a written representation of who you are and who you want to be. It's a credo or philosophy, written to reflect your values and edited over time to refine the edges of your philosophy.
It demonstrates the power of organizing what you feel and writing it down or speaking it out loud. And with that I share my Personal Mission Statement; consulted often, edited occasionally, some points followed more consistently than others. I will leave room for flights of fancy.
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Jan 18, Jenny Reading Envy rated it it was amazing Shelves: read , read05 , librarianship. This book changed how I worked and how I set goals. It isn't the feel-good self-help book it appears. Read again before going back to work in January I think it's fitting that the first time I read this, I was in grad school and planning for the future, and that I would read it again as I leave behind the career I was planning for back then.
Well, somewhat. I'm letting music librarianship go and focusing on being an assistant director in the library, and also to figuring out what the next This book changed how I worked and how I set goals. I'm letting music librarianship go and focusing on being an assistant director in the library, and also to figuring out what the next move will be in a few years. A couple of things I'm mulling over after the second read: -Moving beyond to-do lists, which can be a false sense of achievement -Not letting work be the only place where goals are set -Valuing difference -Becoming a person who helps others achieve their goals -Quadrant II again It took me months to finish the book, as I kept practicing and re-read the habits from time to time.
Besides, the book's contents is very compact that requires full focus to absorb all the ideas. But it's worth. Remind me of principles in life, giving practical guides on how to change ourselves, how important human interaction is. Praises are not enough for this powerful book. It's a must read book for a man in his quest for excellence. We are not our feelings. We are not our moods. First in mind, then physically Accept the responsibility for both Habit 1 says "you are the creator". Habit 2 is the first creation Habit 1 says "you are the program". They are tightly interwoven threads running with exactness, consistency, beauty, and strength through the fabric of life Brain Left hemisphere: logical, verbal, parts and specifics, analysis, sequential thinking, time bound, manage Right hemisphere: intuitive, creative, wholes and relationship, synthesis, holistic thinking, time free, lead Expand your mind.
Visualize in rich detail. Involve as many emotions and feelings as possible. Gentleness can be expected from the strong Rebellion Rebellion is the knot of heart, not of mind Think win-win It means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying Win-win sees life as a cooperative, not a competitive arena There is plenty for everybody Belief in third alternative Win-lose Authoritarian approach.
Prone to use position We are deeply scripted in the win-lose mentality since birth The academic world reinforces it Lose-win No standards, no demands, no expectations, no vision Seek strength from popularity or acceptance Intimidated by the ego strength of others Win-lose people love lose-win people Character Your example flows naturally out of your character Your character is constantly radiating, communicating Listening Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with intent to reply They're either speaking or preparing to speak Filtering everything through their own paradigms Reading their autobiography into other people's lives The opposite is empathetic listening Ethos Personal credibility.
Integrity Pathos Empathic side. You are in alignment with other's trust Logos Logic. Reasoning part Synergy The whole is greater than the sum of its parts Synergy is everywhere in nature Everything is related to everything It is creative cooperation To value and respect the differences There is psychic synergy taking place in our own head Manage from the left, lead from the right Sharpen the saw Renewal of four dimensions in balance Quadrant II activity Build your body in three areas: endurance, flexibility, and strength Writing is a powerful way to sharpen the mental say Be a positive scripter, an affirmer See unseen potential in people See them in fresh way The upward spiral Keep progressing, we must learn, commit and do repeat The lord work from the inside out The world work from outside in The world would shape human behavior, but Christ can change the human character - Ezra Taft And the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began - T.
View all 3 comments. Mar 03, Carol Storm rated it it was amazing. One of the most disappointing experiences of my life was going to Columbia University in hopes of an education -- by which I mean being taught how to deal with people, and my own emotional needs, and make plans for my future. This was in the mid-eighties. Well, the books I had to read at Columbia had nothing to do with anything as mundane as making a living or liking yourself or understanding how to work constructively with other people. I really, really wish I had read this book as a Columbia f One of the most disappointing experiences of my life was going to Columbia University in hopes of an education -- by which I mean being taught how to deal with people, and my own emotional needs, and make plans for my future.
I really, really wish I had read this book as a Columbia freshman in Of course it wasn't written till What Stephen R. Covey does is so much more than just telling sales types how to win friends and influence people. He teaches you how to think about what you really want from life, and how to express those goals, frame them in a workable context, and make them possible by connecting with other people.
Those are all skills I didn't have when I entered Carman Hall in the fall of , and I didn't have them when I left Furnald Hall for the last time in It seems to me that these fancy Ivy League colleges do nothing but rip people off, especially in the Humanities divisions. They don't teach practical job skills, or self-development, or leadership, or anything else. They don't encourage skepticism or independent thought.
Jobs aren't important, because, hey, only rich kids go to Columbia! And if you're not rich, you don't really belong, so who are you to question the curriculum? Of course no one expressed it in quite that way. When I was at Columbia in the Reagan Eighties, a lot of the more left wing professors took pleasure in sneering at kids my age as being materialistic and lacking ideals. They kind of made you feel that you had no business hoping for any kind of practical benefits from your education.
And they were really, really clear on the fact that undergraduates had no business asking for help. They weren't there to help. They were there to lecture. And they weren't thinking win-win! If I could have my college education to do over again I wouldn't go to Columbia. I wouldn't read Homer's Iliad or Plato's Republic. May 04, K. Absolutely rated it liked it Shelves: self-development. The 7 habits will always be applicable as they are all based on common sense.
I think the business gurus are just renaming things in order to appear new. They are the ones laughing their way to banks while HR people in companies appear to have brilliant ideas for productivity by using those new ideas or propositions based on these books. Apr 01, Darth J rated it it was amazing Shelves: would-recommend , school-books , better-than-i-thought-it-would-be , reference , non-fiction. Re-reading an old favorite.
Undoubtedly, this one is one of the qualified sort of psychological books. If you feel confused working out your life issues and having problem get them organized you can resort to this book for figuring out what is best to do. I liked the last part most which is about the great effects of physical activities and qualified foods on mental health and improving mentally. To sum up, it recommended us to first undrestand every thing and then go for the rest Sep 07, Fiya rated it did not like it Recommends it for: Pricks.
If only humans were robots If you were a paraplegic who had just fallen from an story-building, and the by-standers shot you with automatic rifes and blew you with grenades, leaving you behind as an amorphous mixture of blood and flesh. You would not have to worry. You are not your cirumstances. The author, Stephen R. Covey, passed away in July this year. Rest in peace. He left a positive mark and this needs to be appreciated. Now to the book I bought it about 2 years ago, but never If only humans were robots I bought it about 2 years ago, but never bothered reading it.
It had a self-help look and feel about it which prevented me. In retrospect, I could have walked out of the bookstore without it, but fate had its way. And so it did last week, when a teacher of mine talked about this book and praised it. Oh yes he did. His opinion was that it was literally life altering. I thought, I already had the book, why not give it a read? You know, maybe it'll make me smarter, and a better person. The thesis is clear from the get-go. The author realized that most of the self-help books focused on secondary problems so his intention was to focus on the effective practices which were fundamental in human nature.
The real thesis? A self-help book that will vilify all the existing self-help books and then triumphantly walk as the 'true', read:self-help, book. Make no mistake, every grain of this book is reaking of the generic self-help ideas. From the start the author berates self-help books as having 'platitudes', and by the 3rd habit chapter, I had enough of THIS book's platitudes. It breeds in you your superirity, your ego.
Your wife doesn't want to have sex with you, you choose to accept have sex with her.
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Your boss doesn't call you in the evening, you choose to go for the betterment of the business you work at. It wants you to become that ultimate prick. I have read sentences in this book that made me vomit! Predictable Results in Unpredictable Times. Stephen Covey. The Hunger Games: Special Edition. Give and Take. Adam Grant.
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